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Stop Telling Yourself Lousy Stories

Life shapes us.  Often too young to fully understand, we are overwhelmed by fear, anger, upset… and we create stories. Stories that shape our beliefs, habits and limit us to this day.

I’m now 10 days without a cigarette and feeling great! This is the longest I have ever been without a cigarette in 17 years. Directly following my session with Joel, I had a very stressful night at work and then it was my birthday two days later, so I was out with friends and for dinner (one of my favorite times to smoke), and each time, I managed to make it through with strength and positivity!EM

Our brains magnify, delete and distort our memories.  And while terrible things may have happened, the stories we create can limit or motivate, fade away or inspire forever. Stories change, and have changed many times.   You are different at 6, 16 or 26.  Stories change over time, stories change when you are happy or sad, when you succeed or fail.  Your stories that still bind and limit you are waiting to change.


The stories you tell yourself and others have many connections and layers that help to bind you.  Unconsciously these stories craft our thoughts, beliefs, feelings and habits to support this story. And we react in ways, that are illogical and often contrary to our highest aspirations.

Thank you so much for the session it was the first time I have done this type of work and was amazed at how readily I interacted and went with the process. I am pleased with the great insights that came through and the feeling of radical forgiveness. The exercise works!

Thank you again,CL

You’ve dreamed achieving a goal, being confident, losing weight, etc. And when you imagined that goal, you told a different story about who you are and what you are capable of.  And that story is as valid as the one that has held you back. That story can be yours, you can lead a different life.


You can choose to let the anguish, the overwhelm of 10, 20, 40 years ago continue to dictate your life, or you can choose to be different, happier, better.   You can continue to cry “woe is me”, “If only….” or have new better beliefs about who you are and what you are capable of. You can continue to gain weight, smoke, stress out and be afraid or you can be free. The choice is yours.

Thank you so much for the session. It was the first time I have done this type of work and was amazed at how readily I interacted and went with the process. I am pleased with the great insights that came through and the feeling of radical forgiveness. The exercise works!

The moment of ah ha for me was when a phase entered my mind ‘mastery is consistence,’ just do what needs to be done consistently and life takes on a new form common sense yes, yet ‘I got it’, with new meaning.  It was a great experience, for the fog lifted and I am able to see clearer.Rita C

Your unconscious wants what is best for you, it wants to feel good, to succeed. You have within you more resources then you are aware of. A you that can rise above all that has befallen and change. Even your most engrained stories can change.  You’ve done it already countless times before.  And in your imagination you’ve done it a thousand times more. If I asked you to imagine you making the change you want, living the life you want, and you step into that story, you will have different beliefs, different feelings about your past, your present, your future.


You’ve dreamt it, you’ve felt it, that different way of being,. Those amazing stories, that you’ve felt for a few moments a few hours, a few days can be yours for much longer. Those stories, those beliefs and feelings can be, resilient, resourceful. All you have to do is choose to call.


Get Unstuck

Stuck is not permanent.

If you’re Tired of Fighting with Yourself, Know You can always change. Always. You’re frustrated, You want to change. You’ve tried to change. But you’re doing the same maddening, confusing things. You’re ready to scream. Banging your head against an invisible wall, knowing that there must be a better way.

You’re stuck. Stuck and it seems like it will never end, never stop, never go away. Breathe easy. Stuck is a lie. No matter, how long it’s been or how strong the limit. No matter, what has held you back or what future goals you imagine. You have the ability to release the chains that have bound you.

Relax, know that there is a code, a pattern waiting to be unlocked. You can let go of fear, stress, doubt, frustration, anxiety. You can create new habits, new beliefs, new ways of being. You can be free. This struggle Done.

Science teach us our memories are plastic. Unconscious patterns that have held you back…they are no more real then your dreams or imagination. The only difference is one uses worn, familiar circuits and another way, a better way that already you’ve imagined is waiting for you. Waiting to to be organized, practiced and strengthened to replace the old.

You have the ability within you to lose weight, to be confident, calmer, more peaceful. You have the ability to stop procrastinating, to be happier, more joyful. You have the ability to be happy, to be successful, to achieve your goals. Are you ready to make your change, to achieve your dream? Is change always, easy? No! Can change be scary? Yes!

There is an art and science to slipping those invisible chains that have bound you and kept you from your goals. Change can be easier, more effortless then you ever imagined. All you have to do is take the 1st step.

Or you can keep on putting on weight, filling up your lungs with smoke, being anxious, or upset. You can keep dashing your hopes and dreams, manufacturing more pain, frustration and despair. You can continue to kill your life, your essence, who you are meant to be and what you are meant to accomplish.

Or you can live your dreams of more and better. You can tap the untold resources inside of you.. It’s your call. Your future is waiting, waiting… to start, Now!

Imagine becoming that better you. Imagine achieving your goal, getting that job or relationship. You have the ability; To take charge of your change. To drive away the shadows. You have the ability to let go of the limits that have bound you up to now. And your unconscious can make all your wondrous changes at the pace and speed and in the ways that are just right for you.

Change is simpler then you think. Your change is waiting for you. Start today, take your first step, Now. And Contact us.

Irresistible Change

What if Change was Irresistible

There is a change you want. You’ve dreamed it, you’ve breathed it in, you’ve lived it if only for a little while before it fell apart. A different way of being whose continuity eludes you, drives you mad.

Imagine releasing the frustrated of years, and achieving your desire. Imagine your change happening naturally, easily and more effortlessly then you thought possible.

Imagine the dream that keeps dancing in front of you, just out of reach finally yours. And your change happening in a way that is irresistible, unstoppable.

Life brings confusion, upset, and fear. And our unconscious creates the best response it knows, and locks it in against future harm. As we grow older, some response gets outdated, not updated. And as much as we know better logically, our unconscious old response is faster and stronger then logic.

Imagine that same unconscious knows a way to make your change, your dream a reality, more easily and naturally then you thought. You’ve lived this change even if only for a moment. You’ve clearly seen yourself this way. It’s effortlessly inhabited your mind and body, many times.

Why shouldn’t it be yours consistently?

You can continue dreaming, feeling the pain, the limitations, the lack or you can step into your new reality and keep it. If you could solve this logically, consciously, why haven’t you? You’ve changed your beliefs, your habits, our ideas about the world many times already, most times without our conscious awareness.

Your unconscious knows the way to make change happen naturally, organically. Your unconscious knows how to change in the ways that are just right for you, your dreams, your goals, your ambitions.

Confidence, weight loss, focus, relaxation, freedom from phobias can all be yours. Some changes can happen all at once, others can take place over time, at the pace and speed that is right for you.

Irresistible, unstoppable change hunger for you. Your goals, your dreams yearn reality. Stop waiting. Book an appointment, now


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